Do you want to be common or do you want to be extraordinary?

It seems that from a very young age people generally have the need to fit in or belong. At this stage you have no idea what it really means except that it makes you feel comfortable and you perceive that you are loved because you belong. When you seek to fit in or belong you are actually saying I wish to be common.




Common:
Having no special distinction or quality, average, ordinary, standard, mediocre, lack of uniqueness

Quite often you may want to be common so that you do not stand out. Common people tend to criticize and pick on people who stand out. Often times there is a fear of being unique because of peer pressure to be common. Whether you're an adult or a child these pressures still exist. They affect you as long as you are not accepting your own uniqueness. If common people pick on and criticize people who are unique, why would you want to be one of them? To become common is the denial of self. As long as you're in denial of yourself and your own heart's desires to be whoever it is you are, life will always feel like something is missing.

Sometimes you may want to be common as to not stand out so that you can hide your true self. You may hide your true self because you fear the judgment of others. This judgment may be about how bad and wrong you are, or judgment of whether you are lovable or not. If you are extraordinary often you are treated as an outsider and feel like an outcast. This then is interpreted as meaning you are not loved.

When you feel the need to belong or fit in you might find it interesting if you change the words ‘belong’ or ‘fit in’ to ‘common’. After having changed the sentence from, “I want to belong” to “I want to be common” ask yourself:

“Do I really want to be common?”~ Notice the difference how changing the words from ‘belong’ to ‘common’ changes the feel of the statement.

No one truly wants to be common. The problem is that most people confuse belonging and fitting in, with being loved. You will find that even if you belong or fit in, it still is never quite enough. Why settle for common? Why not choose to be extraordinary with the ability to interact commonly.

Conflict within you usually occurs because you have a desire to be common and a desire to be unique or extraordinary. This is where you might be torn between wanting to fit in and belong or be unique and extraordinary. The word extraordinary is too threatening for some people because in society it is often implied that extraordinary is unacceptable and you will not be accepted if you are too different. It is also implied that being extraordinary is only for those who are special and the select few. The general belief that human beings carry is, they are not special, even though they want to be.

It's now time for you to choose to be extraordinary!

© Michael Cavallaro 2010

Happiness of Spirit

Spiritual happiness is something many people seek. People often confuse happiness of Spirit with personal human happiness. There is also a misperception of what spirituality and personal human identity are about, as well as almost no understanding of happiness of Spirit. There is a perceived separation of Spirit and personal identity. This leads to the need to become spiritual or be a spiritual seeker. 

 

Personal human identity and happiness is about who and what your ego/personality perceives it is or, who and what it's supposed to be. This could be related to family, work, relationships, children etc. Personal identity happiness is related to the human experience only. Personal identity in the way that you know it is limited to your humanness.

 

Most of what you perceive of as happiness through your personal identity is based upon human programming or belief patterns. This is limiting. This is the world of should’s, would’s, have to’s, supposed to’s and musts. This is also about the things you think you want because you heard or came to believe this is the way things should be.

Spirituality is often perceived of as who you're supposed to be. Some of the perceived qualities are; going to church, meditation, personally reflective, being a good person, in touch with God. In truth spirituality doesn't actually exist. To believe that being spiritual or spirituality exists carries an unconscious belief that, you are not Spirit. It also implies that you must become or be something that you are not.For example, does a deer try to become a deer or a bird attempt to be a bird? Of course not they are what they are. They do not chase something that they already are.

Spirituality does not exist because you are Spirit and you cannot be anything else. Because you are Spirit you cannot be spiritual. At your core is your Spirit. Your Spirit is what it is. Your Spirit, at some level decided it wanted to experience human and has created your human form. Remember, the only reason someone wants to be or become spiritual is because they believe they are not!

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Spirit Having a Personal Identity

The concept of Spirit having a personal identity versus your personal human identity becoming spiritual might be unique to some. Your Spirit, also referred to as your Holy Spirit, is your true essence. It is that which was created by Source/God. Your Spirit has a personal identity but it is not related to or about your personal human identity. Your Spirit has chosen to have an experienced as a human being. In doing so it needed to have a personal human identity so that it could perceive itself in a human form. So the personal human identity is simply a way for you to navigate with on your human journey. What tends to happen is that personal human identities are not conscious of their Spirit. When you become conscious of your Spirit, your whole life experience will change.

When you finally connect with your Spirit you become it. Once you become it there is no separateness within you. At this point you will experience the happiness of Spirit. Happiness of Spirit is when your joy comes from within you and from this perspective you enjoy the human experience. It is your spirit living through your personal human identity. The human experience then becomes like an adventure to Disneyland and you/your Spirit is what took you there. Happiness of Spirit is when you realize that you are Spirit

© Michael Cavallaro 2010